Are You the Initiator?

Do you have acquaintances where you are the one who always initiates a contact? Is the only time you get an e-mail from some people is when they are responding to your e-mails? Should you continue to always be the one to make the first move?

I can understand how frustrating that must be. Could it be the other person is truly very busy? It could be taking the first step is appreciated as that gives the other side the opportunity to communicate with you. If they do respond and are not ignoring you why not keep things status quo?

If the other side responds in kind with details, are chatty and really seem to enjoy your e-mail, I would continue. I know my Mother rarely e-mails me first and I know she loves me. However, if the replies are terse or abrupt, maybe just forget about it and wait until they contact you.

On the other hand I know I have a person from my past that will e-mail me on occasion. I never e-mail them first - because I am really not interested in reinstating our relationship so I am cordial and polite. Rarely do I ignore someone who continues to contact me. The rare occasion being when we really have no relationship or anything in common to continue the communications. In that case what is the point? Both sides need to be realistic.

I think one knows in their gut based on the replies (or lack thereof) if the other side wants to continue to hear from you. And, if they don't - who cares - that is their loss! Spend your time communicating and forming relationships with those who appreciate and are open to your efforts.